Sometimes I wonder if I am being cheated on. Numerous survey studies involving many different groups of people have been recorded to approximate what percentage of people cheat on their romantic partners. If you are looking for a piece on understanding and seeing the signs of an emotionally or physically abusive relationship please start here.
It appears that between 10% and 20% of people are unfaithful on average once per year. If you have a spare moment, feel free to take the free relationship infidelity quiz.
Here is a link to a Wikipedia description of mirror-neurons. They play a huge role in our intuitive communication abilities. It is helpful to understand non-verbal cues because they can tell us a lot.
Here are 14 possible signs your partner is being unfaithful:
- They have unnatural excuses for being somewhere else. I have to watch my mom’s dog.
I knew a man who told his girlfriend that he was watching his mom’s dogs as an excuse to leave the house overnight. Mutual tracking software had been installed on both of the partners’ phones but it was not a difficult obstacle to overcome. We do not recommend relying on phone tracking systems because they are often inaccurate.
- They do not get digital l notifications when they are with you. Hear no Evil.
If you send someone a text message and their phone is facing up; they will typically receive an on-screen short transcript of the text. If all notifications are disabled this means they are at least aware of the fact and prefer not to share their private conversations.
- You catch them in multiple lies. You’re not a real boy.
Most people tell lies because they think they will get away with it. If someone’s single deciding factor for whether or not they are going to tell a lie is the probability they will get away with it then you may have the wrong someone in your life.
- They have meal receipts over $25. Dinner for you, or dinner for two.
It is pretty uncommon for one person’s meal to cost over $25. Typically, receipts are left in jacket pockets for days or even weeks before being discarded.
- They flirt with others right in front of you
We have all heard the saying “Oh, he/she is just a friend”.
- They do not mind the idea of being in other places without you for weeks at a time.
Unknown Quote – “Long-distance relationships can absolutely work out so long as all four people trust each other“.
- They frequently ask you to invite over your attractive friends.
Desire is a strange animal.
- They went to the gym but never opened their gym bag
One report suggests that a very common way for people to cheat is to get a 24/7 gym membership so they can leave the house for an hour without being noticed. Try removing essential items from someone’s gym bag or just adding something unusual to see if they noticed.
- Strange items are left in their car.
I once met a woman who intentionally left items in the car of the man she was dating. Her favorite calling card was lip gloss.
- Dating profiles
Many of us have old dating profiles hanging around. If you want to see if someone has an active Tinder you can try a service called Albion. Or for Bumble, you can try a serviced called Buzzhumble. Both of these companies offer access to an automated private investigation engine that finds dating profiles.
- A change in vocabulary
Did your partner learn an interesting new phrase or tone that reminds you of someone who is trying really hard to sleep with another person? Mimicry is the ultimate flattery.
- Is literally everything password protected while you are around?
If you just started seeing someone and all their devices are password protected then they may be hiding things from you.
- Do they spend too much time bun-gazing?
Some argue that sex addiction is a real thing.
Hickies are hard to hide but it can be done. Some people seem to get away with the “I was punched by a baby defense“. Perhaps a man with makeup in his possession who doesn’t use it could be guilty of hiding a hickey or two.
If you answered yes to multiple questions, then your partner may be cheating on you.