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So being in a romantic relationship usually means the two people involved are intimate with each other (emotional closeness) and are probably sexually active to some degree (passion), but what turns romance into real love is the addition of commitment- the agreement to remain faithful to each other and to do whatever it takes to make your relationship work. Without the commitment, you are living an illusion in which you believe that all you need is love and that nothing else matters. It is not until you willingly commit to someone that you have created the foundation for a truly meaningful relationship. Knowing that your partner is truly committed to you will increase the degree of both the intimacy and passion that you feel for your partner. We all know that relationships can be complex confusing sometimes. If you have ever wondered how various aspects of your relationships stack up on free quizzes then check out our articles on relationships. We have some articles dedicated to spotting the signs of infidelity, and others dedicated to spotting the signs of relationship abuse both emotional and physical. Do you ever wonder if your wife is cheating or if your husband is cheating? Read our article titled "Am I being Cheated On?", and use the results to analyze past or current relationships. Our tests are not peer reviewed but they were written by people of great experience.

Am I being cheated on?

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Sometimes I wonder if I am being cheated on. Numerous survey studies involving many different groups of people have been recorded to approximate what percentage of people cheat on their romantic partners. If you are looking for a piece on understanding and seeing the signs of an emotionally or physically abusive relationship please start here.

It appears that between 10% and 20% of people are unfaithful on average once per year. If you have a spare moment, feel free to take the free relationship infidelity quiz.

Here is a link to a Wikipedia description of mirror-neurons. They play a huge role in our intuitive communication abilities. It is helpful to understand non-verbal cues because they can tell us a lot.

Here are 14 possible signs your partner is being unfaithful:

  1. They have unnatural excuses for being somewhere else. I have to watch my mom’s dog.
    I knew a man who told his girlfriend that he was watching his mom’s dogs as an excuse to leave the house overnight. Mutual tracking software had been installed on both of the partners’ phones but it was not a difficult obstacle to overcome. We do not recommend relying on phone tracking systems because they are often inaccurate.
    cheaters need excuses
  2. They do not get digital l notifications when they are with you. Hear no Evil.
    If you send someone a text message and their phone is facing up; they will typically receive an on-screen short transcript of the text. If all notifications are disabled this means they are at least aware of the fact and prefer not to share their private conversations.

    cheaters have to hide everything
  3. You catch them in multiple lies. You’re not a real boy.
    Most people tell lies because they think they will get away with it. If someone’s single deciding factor for whether or not they are going to tell a lie is the probability they will get away with it then you may have the wrong someone in your life.

    cheaters lie
  4. They have meal receipts over $25. Dinner for you, or dinner for two.
    It is pretty uncommon for one person’s meal to cost over $25. Typically, receipts are left in jacket pockets for days or even weeks before being discarded.

    cheaters buy dinner for two
  5. They flirt with others right in front of you
    We have all heard the saying “Oh, he/she is just a friend”.
    cheaters normalize their behavior
  6. They do not mind the idea of being in other places without you for weeks at a time.
    Unknown Quote – “Long-distance relationships can absolutely work out so long as all four people trust each other“.

    cheaters can never let you see
  7. They frequently ask you to invite over your attractive friends.
    Desire is a strange animal.
  8. They went to the gym but never opened their gym bag
    One report suggests that a very common way for people to cheat is to get a 24/7 gym membership so they can leave the house for an hour without being noticed. Try removing essential items from someone’s gym bag or just adding something unusual to see if they noticed.
  9. Strange items are left in their car.
    I once met a woman who intentionally left items in the car of the man she was dating. Her favorite calling card was lip gloss.
  10. Dating profiles
    Many of us have old dating profiles hanging around. If you want to see if someone has an active Tinder you can try a service called Albion. Or for Bumble, you can try a serviced called Buzzhumble. Both of these companies offer access to an automated private investigation engine that finds dating profiles.
  11. A change in vocabulary
    Did your partner learn an interesting new phrase or tone that reminds you of someone who is trying really hard to sleep with another person? Mimicry is the ultimate flattery.
  12. Is literally everything password protected while you are around?
    If you just started seeing someone and all their devices are password protected then they may be hiding things from you.
  13. Do they spend too much time bun-gazing?
    Some argue that sex addiction is a real thing.
  14. Hickies
    Hickies are hard to hide but it can be done. Some people seem to get away with the “I was punched by a baby defense“. Perhaps a man with makeup in his possession who doesn’t use it could be guilty of hiding a hickey or two.

If you answered yes to multiple questions, then your partner may be cheating on you.

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Relationship infidelity quiz

Do you have a feeling you are being cheated on? This intuitive quiz asks some hard questions. Its validity has not proven by peer review.

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How many times per year do you catch your partner in a lie?

2 / 5

My partner cheated on me in the past

3 / 5

Do you believe your partner hits the ignore button on your calls outside of job or school hours, and if so how many times does this happen per week?

4 / 5

My partner always checks in with me and answers if I call late and they are out and about with other people.

5 / 5

My Partner has a lot of notifications disabled on their phone.

Your score is

The average score is 53%

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Is Tinder a place for creeps?

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tinder creep

Is Tinder a place for creeps? Lets talk about it.

Is tinder a place for creeps? I just received this post in my digest and I wanted to share a little bit about my past experience with Tinder. I will also explain my firsthand exposure to a variety of creeps on this platform. The definition of a creep is a detestable person deserving of intense dislike. So we begin.

My experience with dating apps has been somewhat involved. I worked for a major dating website right out of college and I have seen substantial inappropriate behavior. I would label about one in fifty people true “creeps”. One of my positions held was quality assurance. I was responsible for routinely reading message threads that were flagged by users.

Here are some of the things I saw on a regular basis:

  1. Unsolicited images of extremities. People who send unwanted or unsolicited images can be classified as having a sexual over-perception bias. There are distinct differences in what is considered acceptable behavior for the different genders. This kind of behavior could also be labeled as an Interoceptive bias, where people allow sensory input to affect their judgement.
  2. Obsessive Behavior after receiving several indicators of interest. It’s important to maintain interest leading up to an actual meeting. It’s equally important not to get jealous or possessive. I read complaints all the time about guys being downright nasty because they’re not getting an immediate response from a woman. Guys will send hundreds of messages while the other party is simply working or even sleeping.
  3. Threats. You wouldn’t really see this one coming, but after being rejected some men return to vicious threats as a way to cope. This is a crime and can get you put in jail.
  4. Lying. While most people wouldn’t report someone simply for lying I did read a fair number of reports about people saying they owned properties and had non-existent assets so they could have relations with someone. One specific incident I saw was a man told a woman he owned a software company and multiple homes in Hawaii when in reality he lived with his mother in rural Texas and had little to no experience writing software professionally.
  5. Stalking. Some people get rejected and resort to using websites like albion-services in order to track other Tinder users and find out their location. I won’t completely detest services like these because they do have real world legitimate application but they are often abused by creeps.

All in all Tinder, like any dating platform, is a place for anyone and not just specifically creeps. Platforms like Tinder and Bumble provide tools so women can easily filter out men with little self control and dangerous unhealthy behavior. When I meet a man on line, I first down right reject him using a second profile to see how he deals with rejection. Then if he remains a gentleman, I’ll match with him on my real profile. This isn’t as time consuming as it seems because most women basically get matched by everyone on Tinder.

Recently Tinder announced it would be launching a variety of new safety features, including a new AI-powered system to help flag potentially offensive messages. The system will ask recipients of any flagged messages: “Does this bother you?” and will direct users who respond “yes” to a report form. While an amazing attempt at “uncreeping” the platform, there is still the grey area. What creeps out one may not creep out all. It is not a perfect system, but it’s a good start.

I bet you are wanting a good juicy story of a creep that slipped through the cracks. so, then without further ado, I will share a time that my Tinder date went horribly awry. On paper this guy seemed perfect. He didn’t pry, he didn’t push. I rejected him with burner accounts and he handled it with the grace and ease of a true gentleman. I wanted “normal” and he appeared to fit the bill.

We met on an unseasonably cold Friday back in September. He looked exactly like his picture; tall, well dressed, and very attractive. I instantly felt attracted to this man. I normally belly up to the bar as a protection mechanism for first date. This time I led us to a more intimate seat in a quiet corner of the bar. The conversation flowed effortlessly. He was an active listener and seemed interested in getting to know me. I was hopeful.

I realized that it was getting late and reluctantly announced that I would need to go home shortly. It was at this moment that the whole date shifted and this prince charming turned into a total creep. He started begging me to stay out longer. In an attempt to delay my departure, he actually flagged down the waitress and ordered me another cocktail.

I knew that I needed to leave immediately so I stood up and started putting on my jacket. He grabbed my arm and tried to playfully pull me onto his lap. Without much thought I let out a small cry for help. This really upset him. He told me that I would need to move faster, as in put out on the first date, if I were to ever get a boyfriend. I didn’t even reply and just moved closer to the crowd near the front of the bar. My insides were telling me that I should not be isolated with this guy.

Very quickly I found an Uber and got out of there. The whole way home I cried and felt like a complete fool. How could I get duped on a platform that I regularly scan for this exact personality type? How did he sneak through my thorough vetting? It was weeks before I could even share my experience because I was ashamed of my foolishness.

Life went on and I have become even more rigid in my pre-date screening. I have done some Tinder dating as well as friend-of-a-friend referral dating. Both have brought joy and anguish. I realize that creeps are great at fooling their victims. They are full of deceit and trickery. And they are everywhere.

Badoo Search: The Definitive Guide

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Search Badoo

Here is a definitive guide to performing a Badoo search. Ever wonder how to find a specific person’s account on the popular dating website Badoo? This is the most up to date guide to performing badoo searches.

For most of the internet-connected world, dating websites and apps like Badoo are the number one way people meet their partners, new friends, and have affairs. Are you worried that your partner might be cheating on you using the Badoo dating website? If so, then keep reading.

WHAT IS BADOO?

Badoo is perhaps the best free dating website currently operating. People can chat, date and meet with over 462 million people.

Badoo is today what Plenty of Fish was in 2012. Most people who are into online dating use Badoo, and Plenty of Fish is actually powered by Skynet and all the beautiful girls are really bots looking to harvest your non-essential organs in order to power their collective using a bio-reactor. Of course, if you aren’t trying to spend a lot of time on the computer then you should know there are people will do it for you. Try this service to get a report on any of the four popular dating platforms which are: Tinder, Bumble, Badoo, and Match.

Badoo Search Step 1: Create an appealing Badoo account

Create a Badoo profile. In order to find someone’s account, you will need your own Badoo account. Make sure that the age of your new Badoo profile is the same age as the person whom you are performing a Badoo search for. Swiping left means you are not interested. When you swipe left on someone or vice versa you will not show up in their potential match feed for a long time. So to perform a Badoo search you will need a fresh Badoo account. Be sure to choose an appealing profile photo.

Badoo Search Step 2: Set your location correctly

The only way a Badoo search will be successful is if you correctly set your location to the same approximate location as your target.

  1. Log into Badoo.
  2. Click on “People nearby”.
  3. Fill out all fields, and press “Update results”

badoo Search Step 3: Click on all pages of results.

Depending on where you live, this could take a while. If you’re unlucky enough to live in a small town you can probably find them pretty fast. However, if you live in a place like Seattle Washington, you should probably try that service we mentioned here.

More tips on performing a successful Badoo search.

Take notes when doing a Badoo search.

When you have found someone’s profile on any dating website or app, they may say the profile is a blast from the past they forgot to delete. If you match with them they cannot use that excuse. Same thing if you see their profile pictures, biography, or location change.

record profile changes

Do not use your real photo if you’re worried about being caught performing a Badoo Search

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Signs of an Abusive Relationship

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If you are worried that you might be in an emotionally abusive relationship then please read the following article about recognizing signs of an abusive relationship. Also, check out this free relationship health quiz. If you are in a physically violent relationship please call the national domestic violence hotline. The numbers are 1-800-799-7233 and 1-800-787-3224 (TTY) and their website is here. If you are looking to find out if your partner is being unfaithful please take a look at this article on the best ways to catch a cheater.

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Relationship Health Quiz

This is a simple quiz made to help you determine if your partner is being emotionally abusive. Its validity has not proven by peer review.

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On average, how many times per week does your partner use derogatory obscenities directed at you.

2 / 5

How many times per week does your partner make you feel guilt and pressure you into doing something you strongly believe you shouldn't have to?

3 / 5

How many times per week does your partner say something like "You're lucky to be with me".

4 / 5

How many times a week does your partner make you feel bad for making simple requests?

5 / 5

How many times per week does your partner intentionally make you feel stupid?

Your score is

The average score is 50%

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Here are 3 signs of an Abusive Relationship

  • Your partner regularly insults you.

    Subtle insults on a regular basis often show disrespect and a one-sided emotional disconnect. Emotional abuse is deliberately causing emotional or mental pain. Some examples of emotional abuse are constant criticism, intimidation, and manipulation. Sometimes with emotional abuse comes infidelity. Simply criticizing your partner’s actions is not emotional abuse, but if someone’s criticisms are designed to hurt your feelings deeply you may be in an abusive relationship.
  • Your partner regularly makes you feel guilty.

    Guilt can be distributed passively. When you feel guilty it is easy to justify your partner’s bad behavior. Unfortunately it is common for people to feel guilty even when they are not.
  • Your partner does not appreciate who you really are.

    Emotionally abusive partners often doubt the character of others. They make you believe that you are not good enough or that you should change. Additionally, abusive partners may accuse you of things you have never done. If you are constantly being insulted and criticized then you may be in an abusive relationship.

What is not considered an emotionally abusive relationship?

  • Having opposing views and criticizing each other, but not getting too heated.
  • Occasional outbursts happen, but they should not be happening on a daily basis.
  • Being reasonably upset over something upsetting, but not letting it go too far.

If you believe you see the signs of an abusive relationship act now. Abusive relationships can become damaging and dangerous if they are not dealt with.

Tinder profile search – The definitive how-to guide

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tinder user search in progress

Can you search for someone on tinder in 2019?

Unfortunately, there is no official tinder profile search tool. However, with this knowledge, you can reliably find and monitor anyone’s tinder profile. What you need is their age, first name, and approximate location. If are you aren’t sure if your partner is truly showing signs of infidelity please check out this article called am I being cheated on?

An accurate tutorial on performing your very own Tinder profile search.

Today we are going to follow an accurate tutorial on how to find someone’s tinder profile. With dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, Happn, and Coffee meet bagel; it is no surprise that cheating is now more convenient and tempting than ever. With a slew of new methods to make it easy to build fast connections, infidelity is more common than ever in human history. Cheating is one of the leading factors in divorce. It is also one of the most damaging and stressful things that can happen in a new relationship. If you are nearly certain that your significant other is cheating on you is it still important to hire an investigator? In this article, we will talk about our opinions and answer some frequently asked questions about private investigation services.

The process to do your own tinder profile search is pretty easy as long as you do not live in a high-traffic city. You might be better off just hiring one of the litanies of services such as albion if you live in Los Angeles or a place with more than 2,000 users per 5-mile area.

11 steps to performing your own Tinder Profile Search

  1. Make a new Tinder and buy a plan with the passport feature. You will need this because Tinder limits the number of swipes on free accounts.
  2. Also, set the age to match their preferred age range.
  3. Next under your Tinder app settings set your location to match their swiping location and reduce your search radius to 2 miles.
  4. Grab a cup of coffee…
  5. Swipe left until you find them. If they have changed their age or distance, try moving around your search location and expanding your search radius.
  6. Don’t swipe right on any profiles, it will just slow you down.
  7. Swipe left more. Do not stop.
  8. Find their doppelganger, say hello and keep swiping.
  9. Decide to give up, have more coffee and keep going.
  10. Just a bit more.
  11. Take a screenshot of their profile and potentially break up with them.

Should You Hire an Investigator?

Do you have the time for this? If not someone else can definitely do it all for you here. Albion Services will send you a copy of everyone’s Tinder profile in the area of your partner in a convenient report sent by email.

Is online dating safe? 7 Tips for Online Dating


In today’s modern age, online dating has gained great popularity. There are so many dating websites and apps and it has become very common for people to meet their significant others online. Right now 40% of Americans are utilizing online dating and their ages range from young to old. What was once considered slightly taboo has now become mainstream. Even though online dating has risen in popularity, you may still wonder if it is safe.

Is online dating safe? 7 Tips for Online Dating

  1. Use a credible website. According to Forbes, there are almost 8,000 dating sites in the world. The United States alone has 2,500 dating sites and every year 1,000 dating sites are launched. Also, fraud is on the rise in the US. Sticking with the larger, more reputable websites like Bumble, Tinder, and Match.com can be beneficial. Many of these sites require a memberships fee so choose carefully.
  2. Meet in a public place. Even if you have been talking with a person who feels trustworthy, this is an important safety precaution. Continue to meet in public places until you are comfortable with the person. After that you can think about meeting one-on-one.
  3. Keep your contact info private. It is always good to err on the side of caution. I try to avoid including my full or last name on profiles. I also never give my full name until after a few dates. Don’t use Facebook or Instagram photos in your profile. It is likely that a potential date will google your name and may find your work address on linkedin or location on instagram. Never post details such as your address, phone number, and personal email address on your profile. Additionally, set your settings to the maximum security levels on your social media platforms. Finally, do not allow an app to post your location.
  4. Investigate potential dates. It is important to verify that people are who they say they are. Google their name and look up their social media to gain a little insight into who the person is. If you find anything sketchy it is not too late to bail. Think of this step as research rather than stalking.
  5. Use the buddy system before and after dates. Tell at least one person where you are going, who you are going with, and what time you plan on going home.
  6. Take public transportation or drive yourself to and from your dates. Always drive yourself to and from dates because it can be risky to rely on someone you met online for a ride.
  7. Trust your gut. It is so common for people to embellish who they are. If something seems too good to be true it probably is. And if something feels off then it probably is. Trust your gut and do not be afraid to cut off contact with someone at any point.

While connecting virtually has its risks, it can be a convenient way to meet someone in a low pressure setting. Make sure apply these tips and stay safe.

Can I Find a Certain Name on Tinder?

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Find anyone on Tinder

Can I find a certain name on Tinder? Of course, if you are patient enough. Some cities such as Los Angeles, Paris, New York City, Seattle, and San Francisco have so many Tinder users that finding a certain name is easy. However, you are most likely trying to find a specific person on Tinder. There are a litany of tutorials available on how to perform your own Tinder profile search, but the majority of them are either out-dated, trying to sell you something that would never work, or they outline an exhaustive approach to finding a certain name on Tinder that most of us do not have the time for. If you wanted to find a certain name on Tinder and you can’t spend any money on the task, I would recommend the following.

  1. Familiarize yourself with Geo Location reporting technologies so that you can set your location to be as close as possible to your targets location. This will greatly reduce the number of left-swipes required to find them.
  2. Start with a fresh account so that you can have an elevated ELO (‘desirability’) score. This will allow you to see all the users in that specific area for 24 hours.
  3. Swipe slow enough to not accidentally swipe through the person. A lot of people (and I mean A LOT) of people talk about albion services, which is a piece of online software anyone can use to auto-swipe through all the people quickly.
  4. Don’t use your real picture. You really don’t want to suspected cheater to see your profile and gas-light on you.
  5. Remember that Tinder sends SMS notifications when you try and log in. If you are in the same room as someone you can try to log in as them while their in the room with you using their phone number. This is an easy way to read their reaction and call them out.
  6. If they log in with facebook, there will be a list of apps they have used with a date when they were used. Here is facebook’s tutorial on managing installed apps.
  7. Don’t fall for scams where people say they can access anyone’s cell phones. I spent several years as a Voice over IP engineer working on high-level protocol securities and I can tell you its definitely not real.
  8. Once you find someone’s Tinder profile please make sure its current. A lot of people have old Tinder accounts lingering around that they just forgot about. If you want to tell if someone is active its best to try and super-like their profile and send them a message. This brings me to number 9
  9. If you do want to match with someone after you find that certain name on Tinder make sure you use a believable profile with a local-occupation, pictures, etc. Guys are experts are spotting fake accounts and bots, they deal with it all day.

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