November was a stressful month. This week’s holiday carried some frantic energy and then random expectations were being hurled my way. This morning I made my decision. I need a vacation from social media.
This has happened before
I really do enjoy social media and I feel blessed that we have such an easy way to stay in touch with friends and family. The last time that I took a clean break from social media was in 2015. I had gone back to school to complete my undergrad degree and was studying computer science. Back then I was a total social media addict and I knew that the only way that I would be able to learn anything using my computer would be if I took away the distractions. Social media was a huge distraction because it had become a lifestyle. I was constantly checking in, posting pics, and scrolling my feed.
I took a dramatic approach and completely deleted all of my social media accounts. The only thing that I had left was my WordPress blog which I just retired over the summer. This was the best decision and my social media free life lasted for 2.5 years.
I had mild withdrawals in the beginning because I had made some major life changes. I quit the full time job I had been working for the last 3 years to start a new full time job at a local high school. I was also a full time student and my boyfriend and I had bought our first house. When you make big, bold, changes; sometimes you lose friends. This happened to me and my life felt a little deserted, but I had school, work, and life to keep me busy.
It was a magical time in my life
It was also a magical time in my life. Shortly after this lifestyle overhaul, my bf and I got our passports and dreamed about traveling. In fall of 2016 we almost left the country permanently. We went as far as moving there and even buying a car, but we missed our cats so much that we came back. I made it back in time to start the fall quarter of my Sophomore year. I filled the social media void by blogging my a$$ off. I also made it a point to stay in touch with a few close friends (1 to be exact.)
During the last quarter of that time period (in 2017), we created an online business that rapidly took off. It was a pleasant surprise and that August I decided to create social media accounts to see if I could advertise the business with them. It was so nice to reconnect with friends and family after being gone for so long.
Back at it again
It took no time at all for me to become a social media addict once again. I can proudly say that I have been addicted for the last 4 solid years. I made a few attempts to take a break from social media, but they were all in vain. I never lasted for more than a day.
In June I started hula hooping every single day and posting about it in a private facebook group. It was totally out of character for me because I am very private and shy, but this ritual helped me to grow as a hula hooper and build my confidence. There was no way that I could take a social media break because I was committed to my daily post and my weekly reel. I posted in the group every single day for 150 days and then I decided that it was time for me to find a new flow.
Hula Hooping and Law of Attraction
My hula hooping teacher, Bee Varga the Hula Hooper, inspired me to start learning about the Law of Attraction. Since September, I have been reading books about the law of attraction and I plan on applying what I learn to hula hooping and my life.
I am learning how to raise my vibration by thinking “better feeling thoughts.” This sounds simple, but actually applying it takes practice. I have noticed that it is extremely difficult to feel good when I am stressed. This is what made me decide that I need a vacation from social media.
I need a vacation from social media.
After 150 days of daily hooping & posting, I felt a little burned out and decided to shift my attention. I stopped overtraining and I even take days off. I used to worry that if I rested or took a day off that I would lose my progress. Now I realize that rest is just as important as work.
This week it felt like social media was being extra demanding of me. It caused me so much stress and yesterday I felt so drained that I could barely move. This morning, when I was working in the garden I tried to pinpoint the source of my stress. Taking a break from social media just felt like a “better feeling thought.” I thought about how I just want to be less accessible and focus on myself and my goals. I also like the thought of living my life in real time without seeking the likes and approval.
Living in real-time
Edification and validation is nice, but this morning I thought about how I don’t need the approval of others to know that we are kicking a$$ at life. Occupying your own space can be so liberating.
Before I make a big, bold, decision I usually do a mental or written pros and cons list. This morning I realized that we do not need social media to promote our business. In fact, I will have more time and energy to spend in helpful places if I spend less time on social media.
If you want to be free just be.
This may sound like an open-ended or incomplete thought, but it gives me hope because it reminds me to stay present. Sometimes life gets so hectic and we get so caught up in pushing and chasing goals that we forget to just be.
There is freedom and so much joy in the present moment if we choose to spend time there. I know that social media was giving me an excuse to check out. The doom-scrolling was starting consume my time and my energy. I was spending less time outside and I wasn’t even reading. I just started to feel depressed and drained. I’m so glad that I caught myself and decided to take this as a sign.
I don’t know exactly how long I will be away. I deactivated my Facebook and my Instagram accounts and I uninstalled them both from my phone. I still have messenger on my phone because it is my primary form of communication. The minute I figured out how to hit pause, I felt like a major weight had been lifted. All of that chatter and pressure I was feeling seemed to dissipate into thin air. This really feels like freedom.
I don’t need to keep up with the Jones’s. I just need to live a life that feels good for me. I realized that worrying and stressing will not magically make things better. If I worry and stress about my sales being low it will not increase my sales. Instead, it may work against my best interest by draining me of my motivation. I would rather use my energy to create my dream life. I think that if I strip away the distractions I can make it happen.
When will I be back?
When will I return to social media world? I really don’t know… It could be tomorrow, it could be a week from now. It could be a year from now. I am keeping this open-ended and plan on navigating with my feelings. This is not like me at all. I usually set things in stone and am not very flexible, but this is part of the journey of raising my vibration. I am going to focus on feeling good and thinking better feeling thoughts.
How long is your ideal vacation?
If you could plan an ideal vacation, how long would it be? Would it be a weekend? 2 weeks? Forever? I think I am going to treat this like a vacation. I get to take this time for myself. I have never thought this way before, but I’m trying to think in new ways to get better results.
Because I was feeling so down, I missed reading a chapter in the “Delicious Alignment” book. When I first thought about reading the book, applying it, and blogging about my journey; I thought that I might do a daily post, but I quickly realized that this is not realistic. I am reading this book slowly and am trying to really digest and embrace the process.
I plan on staying flexible, but also consistent and now that I’m not distracted with social media I may be able to spend more time cultivating these goals. We only have so much time in each day, but we have the power to make the most of each moment. It starts with our thoughts and the little things that we do each day.
Have you been feeling a little stressed lately? Here is a relaxing neck stretch and self-care session. You don’t even need a hula hoop to benefit from this video:
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Thank you for joining me today. It felt good to get that off of my chest and to share my upcoming vacation plans. Have you ever taken a break from social media? Comment below to start the conversation!